February 16, 2012

Working Mom MYTHBusting

I recently read a blog post on "Things Not to Say to SAHMs" or something along those lines. To be honest it irritated me, because it wasn't so much about things not to say as it was a thinly veiled diatribe on how much "easier" working moms have it. So, after thinking long and hard I've decided to go ahead do my own post on Things Not to Say to Working Mothers.

1) It must be so nice to sit and relax and have a cup of coffee in the peace and quiet of your office.
SNORT. The only time I have a cup of coffee in peace and quiet is if I set my alarm early on a weekend and get up before the rest of the house. Coffee in the office is not in peace and quiet, it is full of ringing phones, coworkers talking and desperately trying to catch up on work from yesterday that you had to abandon to go
pick your kid up from daycare.

2) It must be so nice to be able to enjoy your lunch in peace and quiet.
AGAIN, SNORT. I spend my lunch break running around doing errands so that I can spend time with my kid after work. Mostly, I am lucky if I get to shove something down my throat around lunch time. The other option is that I spend my lunch working.

3) It must be so nice to be able to take a sick day from your job; I don't get sick days.
Wise up. Neither do I. Any time I do have off I have to save for taking care of Evie when she's sick. That's the dumbest thing I have ever heard, no mother EVER gets sick days, no matter if she works outside of the home or not.

4) I don't know how you do it; I could never let someone else raise my child.
This might have some merit if I picked my daughter up from daycare and then just put her in her crib and walked away. Oh, and just left her there on the weekends too. Outside of that, this comment is rude, hurtful and holds no water at all. Just don't say it.

5) I have the best job in the world! I get paid in hugs -n- kisses!
Ummm, yeah I know, same job I have. Just because I have another job doesn't mean motherhood isn't the most important and rewarding job I do on a daily basis.

I could go on and on, but these are the ones I find most hurtful and outlandish.

Just for the record I am not saying either camp has the harder job; I think being a mother is hard work no matter how you slice it, this is just a list of things you might not want to say to a working momma unless you want to be either clawed to death or used as a tissue during an ugly cry. If you agree not to say the above to me, I'll agree not to ask all the SAHMs out there what they do with all.that.extra.time!*

{Working mom, SAHM, WAHM, what are some of the ridiculous things people have said to you or asked you?}

*Of course I am being sarcastic!